Sundari Venkatraman Speaks...
Thank you for inviting me to write for your blog. That sure is one long question.
To begin with, love is like any other feeling – with a number of shades. No, I am not talking about Fifty Shades here. ;)
What I mean is that love can be defined differently for and by different people. Romeo-Juliet; Heer-Ranjha and a host of other couples are tragedies that became famous. That doesn’t necessarily mean that true love can be proved only by death. Take the stories of Savitri-Satyavan; Shakunthala-Dushyanth; Nala-Damayanti and many other couples from Indian mythology. Savitri literally brought back her love from the jaws of death – Lord Yama in this case. Shakunthala was reunited with Dushyanth despite Sage Durvasa’s curse. While it wasn’t easy, it did end happily. Nala and Damayanti, who are separated for twelve long years, get together despite all their circumstances.
I truly believe that love was created by God while marriage was created by human beings. There was a time in yonder days when Gandharva Vivaha was an accepted form of coming together of two people. What I understand is that the very decision to get together as a couple is considered a wedding. All the rituals came up much later. Talking about the path of true lovers – I believe true love is to really “let go”. The love that exists today – of throwing acid on the woman who walked away – is not love. It’s possessiveness. It’s wanting to crush the other person. Love should be freedom – to think; to act; to live life by one’s own rules. If a person is ready to let his/her partner do that, then that is true love.
Love should be friendship and understanding; acceptance - where the couple don’t mind sharing anything and everything while there is no compulsion to live in each other’s pockets. Where there is openness; no need for secrecy; no need to utter lies. A partner feels the urge to lie only because the other partner places restrictions. Where there are no constraints, there is only freedom.
Love thrives where there is freedom of spirit.
A great fan of Mills & Boon romances over the past four decades, Sundari has always believed in ‘Happily Ever Afters’ and all her books promise happy endings.